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Where we live can give greater purpose to our lives

5/22/2016

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Medical research, market studies and self-help writers point to how a purposeful life helping others can lead to greater happiness and longevity.

They focus on “how” to live a more purposeful life.  But I think that they ignore “where” to live a more purposeful life.  The “where” can also provide meaning in our lives.
My grandmother’s life story relates to this.  Well-educated from Hungary, she and her husband fled as refugees to New York City after World War Two with nothing but their suitcases  Not knowing the language, they worked on an assembly line in a paper cup factory.  My grandfather tragically died at a young age leaving my grandmother alone to raise their children.  After a long career and many years saving, she finally achieved her goal of retiring in Florida.  She lived the last 15 years in a retirement condominium where an excellent central management took care of yard work, pool maintenance and even arranged social events for the residents.  Residents could theoretically live a life of ease. She had achieved her retirement dream, so I thought.

After my grandmother died, I was helping move out her belongings.  I came across a book where she had highlighted some passages.  The passage described the author's sense of void from her meaningless retirement community life playing cards and wiling way the time without relatives nearby and without a sense of purpose. 

My charming and gregarious grandmother never complained and I always assumed she was entirely happy in her retirement with her retirement village buddies.  So this made me think completely differently and with sadness about her later years.

The cohousing lifestyle contrasts to a retirement home life of luxury.  In cohousing, everyone, including the retired, cooks and participates in workshare.   Even if they can afford to hire others, they do the work for themselves and their neighbors.  There is more effort but there is also more reward.  By helping their neighbors and in return being helped, they connect with every neighbor, even those that aren’t necessarily friends.  And friendships takes an even greater dimension by working together for the greater good of the community.

We live a purposeful life by helping others.  As Einstein stated above, we are here primarily for the sake of others.  Our main life purpose might be volunteering or mission-oriented career.   But we gain a bonus extra meaning in our lives when we also contribute to the lives of the people immediately around us.
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Donna Dohn Broughton
5/24/2016 09:38:24 am

I thoroughly enjoyed this article, Peter, and am inspired by your comments about your grandmother. They ring true for me (a grandmother), too, and gave a needed boost to forge ahead with plans..Now to read your other blogs...

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